4 LEVELS OF RED HATTING
From Lady Sara, FQM
Yellow Roses of Texas
Whether it's not responding to RSVP's, not wearing red hats and purpling up, or just by not getting into the spirit of the RHS we have discussed all of these things many times and in many ways.
Here are some of the conclusions that I have come up with. I have spent a lot of time thinking about all of the problems that I encounter as FQM.
One thing that I have noticed is that the FQM is all excited about her involvement in the RHS and has great plans and hope for her chapter, and it is her chapter for we all tend to think of chapter members as our ladies. We are lucky if we have one other lady that is on the same wave length that we are. If we have two or more we are truly belssed.
But the truth is that more likely than not, there is no other lady that is as excited about the society as we are. They want to join in on the fun but not on the same level that most of us do. That is one reason that we Queens and Vice Queens enjoy meeting other Queens/VQ. We are all highly involved in our society and like being with other ladies that share the fun and silliness with us.
Within each chapter there are '4 Levels of Involvement':
Level 1: "Highly involved" as with Queens and a few members - not only do they wear colors but enjoy gaudying up and glitzing up, read and post on Queen Mother Board, attend area and national conventions, corresponds with other ladies in other chapters, collects anything Red & Purple, has little purple friends, and enjoys talking about the RHS.
Level 2: "Normally involved", wears colors, has fun, RSVP's on time or at all, but doesn't read or post on QMB, in between gatherings may or may not enjoy talking about the RHS.
Level 3: "Barely involved", wears colors but doesn't really like to (wears them only because they have to), there are times they do not wear hats or purple, waits until the last minute to RSVP, tends to sit and talk with the same ladies at every gathering.
Level 4: "Don't know why they even bother", won't wear a hat, thinks a speck of purple is purpling up, won't RSVP, has to be called and reminded, sits only with certain ladies and this list goes on and on.
Some Level 2 ladies after a few gatherings get all excited and really blossom into glorious red hatters, it just takes them a little time to gaudy up.
With Level 3 a few may blossom but more than likely the most we can expect from them is to grow into being a Level 2. Talking with these ladies about RSVP'ing on time may or may not work.
That leaves 'Level 4': These ladies either aren't ready for the RHS, going through something at this time, or they are just the sort of woman that is not happy and will never be happy no matter what they do.
There may be hope for Level 3 but no hope for Level 4. The Level 4's usually drop out after a while.
All said and done, there is only so much we can do with some women. We can plan fun and exciting gatherings and lead by personal example BUT we can not dress them, keep calling them about reservations, hold their hand, pamper them or spoon feed them fun and silliness.
Lady Sara, RQM
Yellow Roses of Texas